Relationship

When we talk about relationship be honest in our 21 century things have bit change in all kind of ways.

Talking about relationship is also talking about the relation we got with ourself, there's all kind of relationship but are we able to follow all kind of models that not for everyone.

So what's making a good relationship whatever way we follow :

The first point is the heart the heart is making you trust this person and follow him or her

The Second is the trust

The Third one is the interaction ( sexuality and so on)

When we have this tree points usually the relationship goes well but we still human and we can lose easily one this tree points and the challenge start here .

And that what really make the relations something or not because be honest with yourself relation without

challenge isn't exactly relation, love relationship isn't a business relationship the more we expect the more we make also suffer us and our mate .

Dzonchar Rinpoche speak about relationship we should expect nothing from each others, because we are human and all make mistakes and the only things we should expect is love.

Another things we have to know that love and hate are really closer, that reason most of the lamas

told us when we are in relationship we should cultivate unconditional love, the love that don't see the challenge but the love don't have any restriction.

That make us think again, that mean when we want to much at the end that break, so we should be really

careful with relationship but in same time we should really enjoy .

Another thing what kill relationship when we get in this routine of everyday life and all kind of trouble knock us down we have to keep this unconditional love up and also to develop a pure bodhicitta because sometimes we let our mouth say the word of to much, this is the pain maker Garchen rinpoche was talking about the right speech and he was saying if you hurt someone by telling the truth right in face of the person that not dharma but that harsh speech and antidharma.

So knowing this that mean all the truth are not good to say, also talk about past relationship will just bring break between person for the simple reason “when you get compare all time what do you think of that” take the place of the person for one minute even if the person is patient at the end that will only bring destruction.

So relationship whatever the kind of relationship we are in, are both a challenge and love and like Ying and Yang we all need to balance sometimes, that because the first relationship to build the best relationship with others is to have a good relationship with yourself.